A few days ago I posted about how NOT to set me up on a date. And on my About page, my bucket list says that I want to marry the most perfect woman in the world and raise a family together. Well I’ve received quite a few remarks about how unrealistic that is, because no one is perfect, and a few questions about how to properly go about setting me up on a date. So, today I’m going to give you guys the description of my perfect woman.
To start, my perfect woman doesn’t have to be a supermodel. I mean… a regular model is fine.
In all seriousness, I don’t really have a “look” that I prefer. Some guys like tall, short, blonde, brunet, freckles, tan, etc, but I don’t really have any of those. The only qualification is that I would prefer a girl who isn’t taller than me. I’m 5’10, so it isn’t usually a problem, but from time to time it happens. The thing I care about is simply being attracted to her. Can’t blame me for that, can you? So, number 1 attribute of my perfect woman: I’m attracted to her.
Of course, she needs to be attracted to me too. This is where so much of my dating problems arise! How do you get a girl to like you? That’s a post for another day I suppose. So, of course, number 2: she is attracted to me.
Now this is where things start getting tricky, because 1 and 2 are the most basic things ever. So here we go…
Number 3 on my perfect woman list is that she makes me want to be a better person. If I’m dating someone who doesn’t make me want to be better for her, I loose interest in the relationship pretty quickly. How boring would your life be if you always stayed the same and never tried improving yourself or becoming a better person? I’m not saying I want to change who I am for a girl, I just want her to motivate me to be the best version of myself possible.
Number 4: we share spiritual/religious views. This one may not be popular with today’s culture, but for me it is very important that I find a girl who will be supportive of me in my religious beliefs. A big part of my future is going to be raising children, and I want to do that within my church. I want a wife who will not only support me in that, but who wants the same thing.
Number 5 on the list is that our personalities mesh well. I don’t want to have to pretend to be different or have to constantly being trying to impress her. She needs to love me for who I am, and vice-versa.
Number 6: I want a girl who is confident and sure of who she is. I’ve found that the most insecure girls are the ones who take themselves the most seriously. Everyone needs to be able to laugh at themselves every once in a while. I don’t want a girl who has to spend thirty minutes choosing which Instagram picture makes her look less fat. I want a girl who can go on a hike without putting on enough make-up to walk the red carpet. Don’t listen to One Direction. They are liars. You should be self-assured enough to know that you are beautiful, no matter what lighting you are in or how long your hair took. A girl who doesn’t need gimmicks to feel good about herself. That’s what makes you beautiful.
I guess all of those points are just one very long way of saying: I have to love her.
My roommates and friends often give me grief about being “too picky” when it comes to the girls I date (or don’t date). Maybe it’s true. Maybe I am too picky. But can you blame me? I’m looking for the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with! I don’t want to settle. I don’t expect my wife to actually be perfect, but I think if she can hit these six points, she’ll be perfect to me.
***This list is subject to change as I continue dating and discovering things that I do/don’t want in a future wife.
***The supermodel/regular model line is a great joke taken from the song That’s All. It’s pretty hilarious :)